For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. And no creature is hidden from His sight, but all are naked and exposed to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account. Hebrews 4:12-13
L is so in love, and I am so afraid for her. I am so afraid I can hardly even pray. I find myself just praying, Oh Lord, help her, O please help her, help her help her. I'm so afraid for her. I'm afraid, I'm afraid, I'm afraid.
She is the only one of our children who apparently is not embracing our ideas about dating being serious business, business that really should be avoided until one is ready to think about marriage. She has received a little attention from a boy she likes, and she is pursuing him. Tears have been flowing in torrents around here. Accusations are flying. It's been terrible. And I don't know what to do for her.
What is most galling is that I am supposed to be a willing participant in this pursuit. That's what she's asking me to do. Suddenly she's obsessed with spending time at this girlfriend's house (whose brother she is in love with), and I'm supposed to do all the driving to get her there. No matter what day, what hour, or what else needs to be done, I am supposed to cooperate fully in getting her to M's house.
And there is no talking rationally to her. She immediately gets mad and says, "I'm not stupid, Mom!" as soon as I broach the topic of wisdom in this area. "I have a good head on my shoulders!" And yet she is proving herself stupid by pursuing him! No rational thought interferes with the free reign of emotion in her world. But she's not stupid!
I am creating rebellion in her by trying to squelch this though. I think I have to let her go make mistakes. It's not like she's on the verge of immorality; it's only a flirty little friendship at this point. But how do you stop a train once it's rolling? Better not to let the train roll at all, but I don't think I have that option right now.
Thankfully, I don't think she likes discord with me any more than I like it with her. So after last night's storms I am hopeful she'll want to talk and find peace with each other today. After a night of fitful praying on my part, I think Hebrews 4 contains the wisdom I need to convey to her. If she is going to pursue, maybe I can strike a deal with her that somehow she is at least feeding herself the Word every day. The Word has power, where I obviously do not. And, as v. 13 points out, the nakedness of her soul is not hidden from God. He knows her, knows her motives, and knows how to speak to her.
And also, I think God's wisdom in this is that His love for her is the antidote for her wanting a boy's attention. If she could know and believe His love for her, that would go a long way toward loosening the grip any boy will have on her heart, especially before the right time. I can talk wisdom until I'm blue in the face, but the beast needs to be fed if it's going to keep quiet. God's love will feed that beast better than any boy.
Oh Father. You are love. And You do come to me. I praise You that You are always near and You are full of wisdom. You help me in my time of need. Thank You.